This morning, I was remembering some of the ways she’d speak to me:

"May God protect you."

"Always be kind to everyone."

“Give, you’ll have more.”

Another constant expression stood out:

Should you stay or should you go, and other questions to help you build a healthy relationship.

Most people set New Year’s resolutions, but only about 8% achieve them. Why and how to be in the top 8%?

We are wired to want to feel good about hoping and planning exciting outcomes in our life. We are also wired to fear change, any change, and therefore true hope and plans are mired by fear, which leads us to resist the action that is required to facilitate the outcomes of our resolutions.

Obstacle is the way. The impediment to action advances action. What stands in the way becomes the way.

2020 traumatized us all with the sudden, deadly virus that caused a halt to our lives as we knew them.

For many, our lives felt like one obstacle after another. A free fall.

When we face so many obstacles, what’s left?

I am so excited!

I am going to sleep sooo well tonight.

Some of our days, driven by deadlines, pressures, and glitches, can get really hard and our impulse to quit and cut corners can get strong.

Instead of trying to rationalize why you should persevere or get frustrated with the situation, try repeating to yourself something as simple as…

This quick anecdote will give you a resounding answer.

When I work with leaders and their companies, I hear a lot of people talk about "pivots," "setbacks," “one person or circumstance made us do it”, and other wishy-washy explanations for failure.

No, it was a fuck-up.

And here’s why owning up to it can be a game-changer.

Don’t hustle.

Working crazy hours does not actually work.

It's a myth.

This isn't popular advice, especially coming from a recovering workaholic, but hear me out.

About fifteen years ago, I met a woman whose husband had just died. He had been relatively healthy, they had a good marriage (from her vantage point, anyway), financial stability, and active family life.

One day, he dropped dead.

Yet, she was still full of warmth, joy, and happiness.

I didn’t get it.

Then she showed me why.

As I wrote this post, a client messaged me to report that she’s lost 70 lbs over the last two years.

Her secret?

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In the Buddhist tradition, there is a beautiful discourse known as the Heart Sutra that delves into the essence of letting go of preconceived notions about how our life should be in order to embrace the wondrous nature of what our life actually is.

Its ultimate objective is to help us relinquish the deep, often unconscious suffering that dwells within us.

While there are many facets of this text, the following question particularly resonated with me: Are the beliefs I hold about myself and the world around me really true?

I had a professor in college, who told me once that “nothing succeeds like success.” Conversely, nothing fails like a failure.

If we focus on all that is positive in our lives, it is inevitable that we will attract more positivity and goodness. On the other hand, if we focus on all that isn’t right in our lives, we will soon grow to view just about everything as negative. Even the things that would otherwise be most exciting will seem like a struggle.

So, how do we switch this perspective?

What happens when a group of inspired, valued, and thoughtful people come together?

They change the world.

This isn’t some pie-in-the-sky wish, but a reality for the best and healthiest teams.

This si the future and the biggest competitive advantage of any company.

Have you ever sabotaged your relationships or other opportunities in life because you, deep down, didn’t feel you deserved it—didn’t deserve happiness? You told yourself, “It wouldn’t work out?”

What did you do then?

There’s no business without clients and there are no repeat clients without relationships. What is the single thing your clients need more than your expertise, responsiveness, reliability, or attention?

I learned an important lesson from a professor some time ago, and I want to share it with you.

It can be life-changing.

Are you ready?

Delegation skills are an expression of several personal and leadership qualities, so regardless of the support system, or the lack thereof, we’ve all known people who’re great delegators, but also those who aren’t. 

So, if you have a couple of minutes, let’s tackle this topic together. 

In a galaxy far, far away, an old story was told in a new way: the hero journeys from adolescence into adulthood, tempted by the dark side, he ultimately chooses the light.

His journey is instructive in innumerable ways.

To not fall to the Dark Side, we must . . .

A calendar year has 8,760 hours, and the Leap Year has an extra 24 hours, so for 2020, we have already used up 2,784. This means there are about 6,000 hours left before 2021 rolls around.

What will you do with them?

What we do and how we feel every single day determines our life.

Own your day!

I saw a sign that read, “Your grandmother’s prayers are still protecting you.”

This couldn’t be more true.

It’s been 19 years today since she died. She’d raised me and was a beacon of hope through many dark times.

I have often asked myself whether she’d be proud of the person I’ve become, even though I haven’t done what she’d planned for me . . .